The irony in Love Shrinks is astounding! This memoir by Sharyn Wolf tells of the
demise of her fifteen year marriage. The paradox hits us in the face as we read
the book’s subtitle: A Memoir of a Marriage Counselor’s Divorce. Ms. Wolf is
a successful marriage counselor! And not just your common run-of-the-mill
counselor….no, Ms. Wolf has written several books on marriage and relationships
(Tips and Tools for Keeping that Honeymoon Glow, 50 Ways to Find a Lover, How
to Stay Lovers for Life, and more), she has appeared on TV (Oprah!! and more)
and she has given dozens of seminars about success in marital relationships.
So we read the chapters recounting the withering of the loving relationship
between Sharyn and her husband. Sprinkled between these chapters of
their downslide are short vignettes called “why I stayed married: reason #__,
numbering all the way to #18. Here we experience the pleasant moments, the
remembered love, the brief glimpse of people who used to care about each other.
Appropriately Wolf ends the book with “why I left my husband: reason #1.”
This is not a book of pain and angst. There is no violence, little foul language. It
is engaging and a pleasure to read, to see Wolf’s sense of humor shine through,
to see that some marriages just aren’t meant to be, and to see the end come with
civility. After all, sometimes love shrinks. Even for love “shrinks.”
On Sale May 2011